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Tarreanno
41 New York, New York, United States
Seeking: Female 18 - 40
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah Before I begin talking about myself, I want to start with an important reminder. Using platforms like this, where men and women are placed in direct contact, undeniably creates a situation that can conflict with the proper boundaries Islam has set for us. We have to be honest with ourselves about that. So before anything else, I would like to propose a technique that...(even if it doesn’t eliminate the conflict entirely), Inshallah, it can at least show Allah that we cared, that we didn’t take this lightly, and that we made a sincere effort to minimize it. Here’s what I suggest: Whenever we need to communicate, instead of speaking privately one-on-one, we create a small, controlled group chat. That could mean any of the below: A) Me plus a trustworthy brother... B) You plus a trusted female relative or friend... C) Or even better, all four of us together (you, me, your trusted companion, and my trusted companion). Ideally, of course, it would be best if you could introduce me to your wali (your father, brother, or uncle) early on, because, truly, that would be the most correct and blessed way forward. But I completely understand that in the very beginning, you may want time to assess things before involving your family. That’s why, at the very least, I’m proposing we keep our communications supervised in some way...not private, not hidden. This way, we can move forward with honor, sincerity, and respect for the limits Allah has placed between us. You might be wondering: "If you're so strict about communication, why are you even using a site like this?" And that's a fair question... so here’s my honest answer: Point 1: Realistically, technology opens the door to far more opportunities to find a compatible spouse than relying only on our local personal contacts. But even though I’m using an online platform, I’m committed to keeping all interactions within the Islamic guidelines as much as possible. Point 2: If hearing all of this makes you feel uncomfortable... If it makes you think I'm "too much"... Then honestly, we are probably not the right match. Because the woman I’m seeking will understand, respect, and appreciate this approach not judge me for it. Ok so if you've made it this far in my looooooooooong message (LOL) Subhannallah, wow you must be bored! LOL I'm joking of course. So Alhamdulilah, if you're still interested and reading. So now I'll talk "ABOUT ME!" I'm American, born and raised in Brooklyn New York. My month and year of birth is Oct 1973. I'm my mothers only child. Most of my family is Christian. At 18, Allah, by His Mercy, guided me to Islam. Alhamdulillah, the greatest blessing of my life, may He keep me firm until my last breath. Ameen A few years later, one of my cousins accepted Islam, then one of our uncles. As of now, the three of us are the only Muslims in my entire family... and my heart aches in du'a for the rest of them. Allah says: "Indeed, you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills..." I pray that Allah guides them... especially my mother... before it’s too late. I come from a deeply rooted American family...generations on both my mother’s and father’s sides have been in the U.S., mostly based in New York City with some family possibly from the South. When I asked my grandmother where we’re originally from, she just smiled and shrugged and said..."Boy dont getz me to lying...I don't know!" ...so let’s just say, we’re overdue for a DNA test! Interestingly, my father’s side traces some lineage back to Native American roots. Professionally... Because Allah said: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women..." it’s only right that you know about my ability to provide. I’m currently an Assistant Director of Cybersecurity ... meaning, in simple terms, I stop hackers from robbing billion-dollar companies. I've been in technology for 25 years, Alhamdulillah, and work remotely, so I can live anywhere in the world with a stable internet connection. My role ranks among the top executive tiers in global enterprise organizations and I can provide you my LinkedIn profile if you want to verify my formal professional history. So about my pictures... At first glance... I know exactly what you're thinking. "Uh oh... this brother looks like an 800-pound gorilla ready to flip a car over!" So I acknowledge I may look like an ex-bank robber LOL, but trust me...I'm not! Alhamdulilah. And honestly...what usually surprises people (and I love this part) is when I actually speak. Suddenly my "thug" image crumbles, and what comes out instead is intelligence, humor, and (Alhamdulillah) a heart that just wants khayr. People who meet me usually end up laughing and saying something like, "SubhanAllah, you're nothing like what I expected. you look "dangerous" but you're just a big kid at heart!" That's a true story! I genuinely love making people around me laugh, feel alive, and feel appreciated. I'm the happy, bubbly one in my circle of trust. I'm the one cracking the jokes, lightening the mood, and pulling harmless pranks like silently standing in a dark corner of the house and just wait for you to pass by. And without any jump scare, no touching... no shouting... just silently standing still for you to unexpectingly to notice me, just to get your heart to beat faster in horror!!! LOL But when life demands it... I can flip the switch instantly to "boss mode", "head of house, mode", "crisis manager," or "800-pound gorilla in charge" mode. When it comes to Islam... outwardly and inwardly... Alhamdulillah, I try to reflect what I believe. Islamically speaking, it is encouraged to judge what’s apparent...while leaving the unseen to Allah, as the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasalam) said: "Indeed, I have not been commanded to search the hearts of the people, nor to tear open their bellies." (Sahih al-Bukhari) To that end: I outwardly display my Islam with purpose. From the way I dress...being from Brooklyn, New York, my style definitely carries that signature edge and confidence... but it's modest, clean, and unmistakably Muslim. You’ll find me about 90% of the time in a thobe or a jalabiya... pants above the ankle, sunnah-compliant! As for inwardly...Islaam is truly my way of life, not just a label. Not just on the tongue. . My 'Aqidah and Manhaj is according to the Qur'an and Sunnah as understood and practiced by the rightly guided companions. I am careful with who I take knowledge from, and I strive to stay upon clarity (Salafiyyah), following scholars such as: Shaykh Ibn Baz, Shaykh al-Albani, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen, Shaykh Rabee' al-Madkhali, Shaykh Saleh al-Fawzan, and the likes of them. May Allah have mercy upon them all. Ameen You will never have to wonder whether your husband is praying. Alhamdulillah, I take the Salawat extremely seriously. Even Fajr. Even when tired. Even while traveling. (Though being human, of course, sometimes we all fall short... even Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasalam) overslept for the salah. but I strive to be consistent and sincere. I don't share this to boast or show off, but this context of marriage, is when we need to be transparent, just enough so that we are clear - they type of man I am. I'm also steadily learning Classical Fus'ha Arabic, as well as Moroccan Darija, to better deepen my connection to the Qur'an, the Sunnah, and the people around me. In reality... Islam raised me. When I became Muslim at 18, it taught me how to eat, how to use the bathroom, how to speak, how to honor contracts... how to be a man. It’s my blueprint for life. Now... let's keep it real for a minute. Everybody sounds amazing during the "getting to know you" phase. But what happens after a few months... or a few years? So I want to be upfront about both my "good" and my "bad". My good? Alhamdulillah, I’m deeply firm against bid'ah (religious innovation). I don't blindly follow personalities, popular trends, or cultures. I try hard to ensure that everything I practice in the religion has solid, authentic evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah, as the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasalam) said: "Whoever introduces into this matter of ours (Islam) that which is not part of it, it will be rejected." I hope Allah blesses me with a wife who values this deeply. My bad? I can sometimes be a little too much of a gorilla. I’m naturally calm, playful, and patient, especially in the beginning of conflicts or misunderstandings. But if the same issue repeats itself literally 20, 30, 40 times over months and years... I admit... I might lose some of that softness. So if I ever sound a little more firm than you like, just know ... it took 19 calm reminders before that. LOL!!! Bonus good point? I'm cautious about who I take as friends. I’m extremely careful about who I let influence me, because the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasalam) said: "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends." I'm not the type always out with the boys, lost in sports and hanging out. I prefer to be home... chilln! spending quality time... ideally with my wife, who I hope to be my best friend, bi'idhnillah. I don’t do social media (except basic WhatsApp for family and male friends), I don’t take selfies, and I don’t mix with non-mahram women ...and I expect the same loyalty and haya’ from my future wife. Inshallah Bonus bad? I'm a little lazy when it comes to planning outings. Not lazy to enjoy them ...just lazy to coordinate them. The idea of Googling, mapping, planning schedules feels like torture. But if you plan a day out... you’ll find me outside by the car, shoes tied, wallet (with money) ready, waiting on you!!! ... faster than you can grab your purse. I’m much more of a homebody than a museum-walker! Give me a cozy evening indoors with family, some puzzles, card games, or online games (no music... no immodesty)... and I’m in my happy-zone! Still, I do go out now and then ... just enough to stay balanced and not grow mushrooms on my head. LOL So although I'm born and raised in New York City...right now, I live in an absolutely stunning part of Morocco called Tabula... mountains everywhere you look... houses tucked right into the cliffs. One of my favorite pastimes is just sitting outside ...day or night... staring at Allah’s breathtaking creation. I want to buy a beautiful piece of land here, maybe high up in the mountains, and build a warm, welcoming home rooted in simplicity, nature, and remembrance of Allah. Not cut off from the world. I still want to travel, visit my mother in the U.S., and see more of Allah’s creation but to use Morocco as my new home, that always calls me back to peace. Martial arts is another passion of mine... Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Muay Thai, Western and Russian boxing... it's my way of staying strong, disciplined, and grounded. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasalam) said: "The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, although both are good..." and I try to live by that. So let me land this plane now... If you're looking for a brother who might look like he just came off a UFC fight card... but who would rather be indoors cracking jokes, solving puzzles, leading his home upon Qur'an and Sunnah... protecting you, your honor, and your Islaam... then, well... maybe we need to talk. (and not privately, remember) LOL May Allah grant all of us what is best in this life and the next, and guide us always to what pleases Him.
Adam
44 College Station, Texas, United States
Seeking: Female 18 - 32

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