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Buted
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Last active: 17 hours ago

36 Medan, Sumatera Utara, Indonesia

Female / Single / ID: 20713357

Seeking Male 36 - 45 For: Marriage

Last active: 17 hours ago

Overview

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She's Looking For

Education:

Masters Degree
Bachelors Degree,Masters Degree,PhD or Doctorate

Have children:

No
Any

Drink:

Don't drink
Don't drink

Smoke:

Don't smoke
Don't smoke

Religion:

Islam - Sunni
Islam - Sunni,Willing to revert

Occupation:

Education / Academic
Education / Academic,Finance / Banking / Real Estate,IT / Communications,Medical / Dental / Veterinary,Retail / Food services,Technical / Science / Engineering

Member Overview

An ordinary woman who wants to be a good wife for future husband & a good mother for future children. I'm a lecturer in a private university & I enjoy my edu-travel. Currently I am a Ph.D. student in Malaysia. If we are compatible & I've to move to follow you, I'll obey the future spouse...
An ordinary woman who wants to be a good wife for future husband & a good mother for future children. I'm a lecturer in a private university & I enjoy my edu-travel. Currently I am a Ph.D. student in Malaysia. If we are compatible & I've to move to follow you, I'll obey the future spouse's decision (will be discussed later on). I belief if both sides (husband and wife) can hold these “things”, the marriage life is happy ever after. 1. Have a commitment It is not love that can make long lasting marriage. Our feeling is changing or up and down toward spouse. It is a commitment (since the beginning of the marriage) which is based on religion and worship Allah the creator that can hold it. Anything happens during the journey of marriage, when both sides have commitment and remember that this marriage is because of Allah, both will do their best to treat their spouse and be patient in educating their kids in the future. 2. Empowering the spouse Both husband and wife should empower or grow together, not only the husband or vice versa. Therefore, both side feel comfortable and have good connection like do reading together, respecting spouse’s feeling and keeping health together. I will support my spouse’s skills or talent and I belief people will happy if she/he grows with her/his talent. 3. Able to manage the conflict No marriage life without a conflict among husband-wife. The problem is how husband and wife manage the conflict to reach the win-win solution among them. It is true that husband is a leader in a family; however, a good leader is someone who can give win-win solution. He is not selfish or win-lose solution. For example in polygamy, it is OK a husband to do it. But the problem is, is it a win-win solution or make win-lose solution? Therefore, a wife feels disappointed and sad. Another example, when one side gets mad therefore, one should control emotion. Don’t do physical abuse and easily warning or say divorce. Better keep quiet or leave the war. Because some problems can be solved as the time flies (when finally, both husband and wife do the reflection to improve/ be better. 4. Be spouse’s friend A happy and long lasting marriage is a marriage which has husband and wife relationship as a partner and friend. Both husband and wife cry, laugh, share, have fun, joke together. Even, deliver the advice in a joke, so the spouse will not feel hurt or feel insecure. Overall, affection and romantic are built by both sides.
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Seeking

A honest man who follows the Islamic values, do shalat, has a halal job & he doesn't smoke. I will obey him as long he is in a good tract. I dislike smoker and drinking alcohol is big no no. Hope can meet with someone who has commitment, able to grow together and manage the conflict. Sure, he wi...
A honest man who follows the Islamic values, do shalat, has a halal job & he doesn't smoke. I will obey him as long he is in a good tract. I dislike smoker and drinking alcohol is big no no. Hope can meet with someone who has commitment, able to grow together and manage the conflict. Sure, he will be my friend in every condition.,
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More About Me

Buted

She's Looking For

Basic

Gender:
Verified
Female
Male
Age:
For privacy reasons, age is accurate to within 2 weeks
Verified
36
36 - 45
Lives in:
Medan, Sumatera Utara, Indonesia
Any
Relocate:
Willing to relocate to another country
Any

Appearance

Hair color:
Black
Any
Eye color:
Brown
Any
Height:
5'1" (155 cm)
Any
Weight:
65 kg (143 lb)
Any
Body style:
Few Extra Pounds
Average
Ethnicity:
Asian
Prefer not to say
Appearance:
Average
Any

Lifestyle

Drink:
Don't drink
Don't drink
Smoke:
Don't smoke
Don't smoke
Eating habits:
Halal foods always
Any
Marital Status:
Single
Single,Divorced,Widowed
Have children:
No
Any
Number of children:
N/A
1 or below
Oldest child:
N/A
Any
Youngest child:
N/A
Any
Want (more) children:
Yes
Any
Occupation:
Education / Academic
Education / Academic,Finance / Banking / Real Estate,IT / Communications,Medical / Dental / Veterinary,Retail / Food services,Technical / Science / Engineering
Employment status:
Full Time
Any
Annual income:
Prefer not to say
Any
Living situation:
Other
Prefer not to say

Background / Cultural Values

Nationality:
Verified
Indonesia
Any
Education:
Masters Degree
Bachelors Degree,Masters Degree,PhD or Doctorate
Languages spoken:
English,Indonesian
English
Religion:
Islam - Sunni
Islam - Sunni,Willing to revert
Born / Reverted:
Born a muslim
Any
Religious values:
Religious
Religious
Attend religious services:
Sometimes
Daily
Wear a Niqab:
Yes
N/A
Wear a Hijab:
Yes
N/A
Read Qur'an:
Daily
Daily
Polygamy:
Don't accept polygamy
Don't accept polygamy
Family values:
Moderate
Moderate

Hobbies & Interests

Entertainment:

Computers / Internet, Education, Movies / Cinema, Reading, Traveling

Food:

Seafood, Fast Food / Pizza

Sport:

Basketball, Swimming, Volleyball

More About Me

Favorite Movie:

The Blind Side

Favorite Book:

How to win friends & influence people. I'm Sharahza, Mushashi

Favorite Food:

Spicy food and all food as long it is halal

Favorite Music:

Basically soft-music & pop music. But nowadays, when I listen to the song it influences my ability in reciting Qur'an. Still struggle to recite. In the past, we were not allowed to listen to pop or western song. We only allowed to listen to nasyid.

Dress Style:

I like dark colour and wear gamis. Few years ago, my mom disagrees with my decision to wear niqob and also told me to wear bright colour. I did not debate mom at that time but my two young brothers did. No matter what the people judge me toward my performance (like what I received from the boss in the campus), I didn’t care. I still have my brothers who support me. In term of physical appearance, I am the eldest but I am the shortest among my three siblings.

Humor:

I'm ok with humor but dislike rude joke. I feel uncomfortable being surrounded by the people who tend to spread porn humor which I think impolite & disgusting. I like to watch stand-up comedy (but of course certain comedians)who deliver his jokes in a good way and also give the critics.

Hobbies & Interests:

1. I like swimming though it’s difficult to find the swimming pool for muslimah only. When I was a child, the place to practice to swim was a river because there was no swimming pool in my village. Hopefully, can have private swimming pool one day

2. I like reading since childhood. I was fourth grade of elementary school at that time when I started to read a novel about Buya Hamka (national hero of Indonesia, religious & brave man who put into jail by the regime) while waiting for my mom in her class. Now, the genres of my reading are my subject field, Islamic novel and biography of famous people.

Travelled:

I would like to go to Mekkah and Madinah as the fifth pillars of islam.

Cultural Adaption:

I will respect my partner’s cultures. I can tolerate when it is not forbidden in the religion because I concern on religion over culture. Let’s respect each other in the way of eating (spoon & knife vs right hand). But in term of greeting different gender by kissing is something I can’t accept. For me, respecting our friends from different gender is not based on touching or kissing.

Romance:

1. Cooking a new recipe for him (though I'm not good enough at cooking). 2. Traveling together. If it is a famous place, I prefer to visit in early morning to avoid crowded people. Overall, I respect my partner’s choice in choosing the place. 3. I will be his beautician like to do pedicure/manicure etc. to make him relax after tired at his workplace. In the past when I saw my mom cut my father’s nail & how they treated their spouse was really nice.

Personality:

Good listener, respect someone's privacy/ choice & dislike dishonesty

My Perfect Match is:

1. He obey the Islamic rules & wants to learn Islam. What kind of family will he try to build if he himself doesn’t do like shalat and he drinks alcohol? 2. Fidelity. Your spouse can’t see you every time but Allah can see you. 3. Respect woman. No matter how angry you are, please control your emotion & don’t try to do physical abuse. I never hit by my parents or see them fighting or yelling to each other. 4. Be responsible man as a breadwinner & don’t depend on a wife. You do your part and I do my part. Sure I’ll try to help. 5. I want someone that respects my decision, being a house wife or a working mom in the future. I’ll be a good listener for all your arguments.

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