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Still
Standard Member
Last active: over 12 months ago

72 Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States

Male / Divorced / ID: 12387220

Seeking Female 30 - 55 living within 500 kms of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States For: Friendship, Marriage

Last active: over 12 months ago

Overview

Still

He's Looking For

Education:

Vocational College
Any

Have children:

Yes - don't live at home
Any

Drink:

Don't drink
Don't drink

Smoke:

Don't smoke
Don't smoke

Religion:

Islam - Sunni
Islam - Sunni

Occupation:

Artistic / Creative / Performance
Any

Member Overview

An Update My profile is already a bit long to some as is, and I really do not want to add much more as an introduction, but a sister sent me a message that I have to address. She blocked me completely without giving me a chance to defend myself. So I want to address it here even though she may n...
An Update My profile is already a bit long to some as is, and I really do not want to add much more as an introduction, but a sister sent me a message that I have to address. She blocked me completely without giving me a chance to defend myself. So I want to address it here even though she may never read it. Her message was that I need to fear Allah, that I was an old man and that I am naked __ referring to my photos. First, yes I need to fear Allah, and I believe that we all need to fear Him regardless of how many good works we think we do for Him. There are many sins we do each day too. We must to turn to Allah for forgiveness, and I do, and I do not take that lightly. Secondly, she called me an old man __ I do not think she meant it as an endearment. (smile) Yes, I am an older brother; I do not lie about my age. Thirdly, she says that I am “naked”, and I believe by this she justifies saying I need to fear Allah, and I am an old man. Me being naked, well, this is not true at all. She is very wrong. This is what I want to address, to proof her statement is unfounded and untrue. This is to her, and to others who many feel the same. 1) Each Muslim knows by Islamic law that the privet parts of a man is between his navel and knees. I certainly did not expose this part of myself. 2) In the Hajj, during part of the run from Safa and Marwa, we men uncover the shoulders from our Mehram. This, and only the top portion of my chest is what is uncovered in my photos; no more. 3) The Prophet uncovered his shoulder and upper back to show Salmaan The Farecy the sign of his prophet hood on his back. Of course in this there was a reason to expose his shoulder and back. This was not his habit, meaning I do not think he sat like that normally. However, there is a strong hadeeth where the Prophet sat in his home with Aby Bakr and ‘Umar where his thighs were exposed. This is before ‘Uthmaan enter the room where the Prophet covered them. Let me say here that others may have the same reaction when seeing my posted photos, and in part, this is why I am writing this update. I might take them down because they maybe, in some way feel offended. The question remains as to why I would post such photos. Well, I think in looking into my heart, that I believe that most women think that a man of my age does not have a sensual side. I am using them to dispel that notion. Now my profile: You can find me: elements-of-still. If Allah wills, you can figure it out. Be clever. I must first thank Allah for those who have contacted me, and to show my appreciation to them. However, I am not looking to those outside the States. For other brothers they may not have the same issues as I, so for them it is fine. Not for me. It can really be a heart break. An update: I am a paid member on this site. However, only for this month, but, after that, as I said, you can find me . . . It is true that I am an introvert, a loner, and it has effected my past relationships; that and the lost feelings of not always pasting the tests Allah gives me in dealing with them, and they with me. However, I like people. I have warm feelings when I am with them, and I do often go out of my way to make them feel comfortable in my presence. I have been burnt a few times __ as we all have __, but to see them interconnect with each other, their smiles, their small talks, the handshakes and hugs does give me hope in humanity, and that Allah's Grace spread around to us all. Still, at the end of the day, being an artist pulls me inward. There is where I feel at home, and if there is stillness and a lot of empty space around me I become content. There is room there inside for a woman to share and explore, but I find women are a bit superficial and can not appreciate the inner stillness and depth of an artist, and the lifestyle one leads.
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Compatibility is perhaps too underrated in the Muslim world, and with the many restrictions upon us in Islam before marriage, it is really hard to know each other and see if there is compatibility. Allah’s system is for our own protection, and still within Allah’s system, we need to do wha...
Compatibility is perhaps too underrated in the Muslim world, and with the many restrictions upon us in Islam before marriage, it is really hard to know each other and see if there is compatibility. Allah’s system is for our own protection, and still within Allah’s system, we need to do what we can to see if the woman is compatible with the man . We are all at some point taken in by the external features of the other. The clothes are nice, the smile seems warm, the eyes deep and perhaps the words are sweet. However, after being taken in emotionally, the rational question is: are we compatible? Do you feel as I feel, see as I see, express __ even in the small things in life __ love, longing, and passion as I do, and in the end could you value, respect, honor and be content with me, and me with you? There will never be a 100% agreement on all these things, but is there a willingness to development an understanding, on both sides, to work on, alter, refine and build to create the relationship? “Yes, I see what you mean. I never thought of it that way before. Could you go over that again with me?” In addition, when I am not present and I am holding on to The Rope of Allah, would you have my back, and would I have yours? Would you hold on to who I am and believe in me, and would I hold on to you and believe in you even when others do not? We say that marriage is haft of the din, and this is the saying of the Prophet (saws), and we say that we just need to get married with the one who pleases us. Yes, I do understand that marriage is haft the din, but I believe indirectly, it means that haft of our trials from Allah __ to see if we really believe __ will come from the spouse. Therefore, if the woman is compatible, and you are compatible with her, then it would seem reasonable that the tests will be easier to pass. Just one other thing __ if Allah wills __, to marry from the same culture, or even family __ as the ‘Arabs seem to often do, is their version of compatibility. The man should have the same income as the father of the woman, is a saying of many of the scholars. These conditions are helpful, and yes they help to fashion the expectations of both the man and the woman. Still, at least for me, if the woman does not know English very well, and is not at all interested in literature and art there is no compatibility. i hope these words are telling and instructive to who I am, and who I am looking for in a wife. Thank you.
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More About Me

Still

He's Looking For

Basic

Gender:
Male
Female
Age:
For privacy reasons, age is accurate to within 2 weeks
72
30 - 55
Lives in:
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States
within 500 kms of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States
Relocate:
Not sure about relocating
Any

Appearance

Hair color:
Grey / White
Any
Hair length:
Long
Any
Hair type:
Curly
Any
Eye color:
Brown
Any
Eye wear:
Glasses
Any
Height:
5'8" (173 cm)
Any
Weight:
82 kg (180 lb)
Any
Body style:
Average
Average, Athletic, Full Figured
Ethnicity:
Black
Caucasian (White)
Complexion:
Wheatish Brown
Any
Facial hair:
Long Beard
N/A
Appearance:
Attractive
Very attractive, Attractive, Average
Physical / Health status:
Normal
Any

Lifestyle

Drink:
Don't drink
Don't drink
Smoke:
Don't smoke
Don't smoke
Eating habits:
Halal foods always
Any
Marital Status:
Divorced
Single, Divorced, Widowed
Have children:
Yes - don't live at home
Any
Number of children:
0
Any
Oldest child:
Older than 18
Any
Youngest child:
18
Any
Want (more) children:
No
Any
Occupation:
Artistic / Creative / Performance
Any
Employment status:
Full Time
Any
Income:
Prefer not to say
Any
Home type:
Apartment / Flat
Any
Living situation:
Live Alone
Any
Residency status:
Citizen
Any

Background / Cultural Values

Nationality:
United States
United States
Education:
Vocational College
Any
Languages spoken:
English
English
Religion:
Islam - Sunni
Islam - Sunni
Born / Reverted:
Reverted to Islam
Any
Religious values:
Very Religious
Very Religious, Religious
Attend religious services:
Daily
Any
Wear a Niqab:
N/A
Any
Wear a Hijab:
N/A
Any
Read Qur'an:
Ocassionally
Any
Polygamy:
Accept polygamy
Any
Family values:
Conservative
Any

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